Cousin Tom, black sheep, and me — A few years ago, my 98-year-old aunt died and my cousin (the family historian every family has) and I were going through a box of old photos from the 1890’s to the 1950’s. Some of the earliest photos had that familiar brownish tint and many were staged in a photographers…

On analyzing a staggering range of emotions — As I continue my transgender journey, I am constantly trying to analyze the staggering range of emotions that have punctuated the entire experience. Of all of the emotions, anguish has been the most powerful and the most debilitating for me. Based on the diagnosis of doctors as well as my…

On estradiol and an interesting social cocktail — Three years on estradiol after 63 years of testosterone and then tossing in a shot of social gender/sex confusion, makes for a very interesting emotional cocktail. Presenting physically male while fostering the growth of a long suppressed female soul completes the amazing human experience. And here I was worried that…

After being topless for most of my life… — I went topless last Sunday on the roof deck of my house. I made sure that no one saw me. I felt, strangely, a powerful sense of modesty. It felt very odd. I have lived in Europe where women go topless all the time. The concept seemed totally acceptable. Even…

Everyone should have a Danny in their life — Danny is a special needs friend… to everyone. He is now in his sixties, but there isn’t a child in my community who doesn’t know and love Danny. His entire being exudes happiness to know you … simple joy to be in your company. He reminds me that love is…

Stop and listen for a moment and you’ll hear them — The world we are currently living in is filled with so much anger, hate and pain that we lose perspective. We think that is all we have in our lives and that is not true. We just don’t go out of our way to see the positive because the media…

Learning that you have been transgender all your life — I am transgender. I learned that fact after 62 years of life. I can’t hate being transgender because it is what I am and I will not hate myself. I just wish I wasn’t. I hate what that knowledge, coming so late in my life, has done to my life. …

ALWAY REMEMBER. ALWAYS HONOR. I first published this a year ago. 911 defines the word “tragedy”. As a nation we all mourn the loss that day. All these year later I still feel the pain. The tears always come back. It was too close to me. I was in the…

I have spent my lifetime solving problems pretty efficiently. In fact, my professional career is helping others solve theirs. It is part of how I am wired, in addition to being wired transgender. It took me a while but I now understand gender incongruence. I get it that my brain was wired female before birth and then Nature decided…