Amanda finding the right therapist is critical and worth the effort. It made a huge difference for me. Here is my ode to my therapist:

https://medium.com/prismnpen/a-simple-hug-after-a-lifetime-of-gender-denial-361bc0a7dcda

The cool thing is that you are not limited to geography. I wish you great luck in your search.

I am not pushing this site but it helped me find the right one for me: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists