Anne I am current living in the transgender twilight zone. Three women at work know that I am transgender. I have to live behind my male façade for personal and professional reasons. It is not a choice I am happy with but it is my decision so I live with it. I hate when clients ask for me when my assistants have decades of experience. I basically repeat what they said but with a male voice and my advice is accepted.
Over time I know that female professional respect will change, however painfully slowly, but, when women like yourself refuse to give in to ingrained misogamy, I have hope for the future.
Thank you for sharing your story.