Conni I am so sorry for your pain and as well as your spouses. It defines tragedy. I told my spouse that she has the ability to leave the relationship but I have no choice but deal with being transgender. Five years later we are still together. It was very tough to negotiate our lives going forward.

There is no drug or cure other than transitioning at some level. That level is up to you and then up to her to decide.

I hope you both find joy together.