Jim you made the best choice because you would have accomplished nothing but getting into a fight in a bar with a drunk woman that would get out of control.

I absolutely sympathize because I have been doing the same thing with my cis guy friends for 50 years. I hid my transgender soul behind walls of denial and felt the repressed anger at their words and the shame of my inaction.

I guess I am relying on society evolving, which it is painfully slowly, rather than getting my ass kicked.

A tough choice but one I need to live with to survive and fight another day.

Stay strong and give yourself a break. You are one of the good people!

Warm regards,

Emma