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Who is Emma?
She is a woman that never had a chance to be a little girl.
She is a person inside a person. Her thoughts were always censured by a binary filter in order for her words to be accepted by the world she grew up with.
She is a soul that has never seen her face in the mirror.
She never got to take ballet lessons with the other girls or braid her hair or played with makeup.
She was never told she was the pretty girl that she always dreamed she could be.
She had to grow up a guy. Instead of makeup, she had to shave her face.
As a guy, she was told to be strong, show no pain, don’t ever be weak, suck it up.
As a guy, she was told to succeed, to be a man, to get an education and get a job, to support a family and pay the mortgage.
As a guy, she had to do guy things, talk sports, be aggressive, listen to sexist jokes, mock gays and lesbians, attack weaknesses, show no compassion and always be combative.
As a guy, she was forced deeper and deeper into the shell of her soul, rarely allowed to breath, hidden from sight, protected from the world by the guy that she lived inside of, the one who completely forgot she was even there.
So, who is Emma now?
She is a survivor. She never died. She chose patience instead. She took advantage of those opportunities to remind the guy in the mirror that she was there.
It took time, a lifetime for me, to understand that she and he are truly just one person. The thoughts they shared were always a collective sharing of perceptions, ideas and beliefs. They are a brother and a sister to each other. They protect and consoled each other. Their endless internal conversations eventually provided the strength for Emma to finally emerge.
She is transgender. She combines a life time of male experiences with the soul of a woman. She has the remarkable opportunity to draw on her gender and her sex to see the world with a unique perspective and to share it with those who care.
